Eat. Exercise. Rest. Repeat.

DEP Book Project: Exercise/Healthy Eating Tips

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God created humans with the most complex system ever, the human body! The body’s unique design allows it to self-heal and live through adverse weather conditions and extreme environments.

While He carefully chose to automate the body’s internal working, he willfully left the maintenance work to our common sense.

The rest of the article is about how we care for such fantastic bodies!


Eat

The best advice I ever received is “Eat well.” It is funny how I only learned it the hard way.

After falling for all the fad diets in my 20s, I lost much more than just my body weight. Although the lost pounds returned once I resumed eating normally; I had to work harder to build back the strength in my body.

I lost 15 lbs in 2 months, eating only salads and soups. The occasional sandwiches were my treat. I avoided carbs. I mainly ate fresh fruits, vegetables and pulses and believed it was enough for my body. I never cared to listen to it. I kept dismissing its signals.

I resisted hunger. I distracted myself to avoid eating, so I could look good. While my outward appearance looked great, my body suffered deep inside.

The worst part was no one else knew the truth but me.

I realized something was wrong when I lost my sleep to chronic knee pain. It bothered me so much every day that I reluctantly agreed to visit the doctor.

The doctor’s advice hit me harder than the pain in my knees. He asked me to avoid walking or standing for a long time and lifting any weights. I listened to him staring at his prescription for a bunch of pain killers, vitamins and minerals supplements.

His voice echoed in my ears long after he finished talking. This knee pain resulted from all the nutrients you had cut from your diet!

It was my wake-up call to eat healthy food for my body. I realised it is the only way to nourish the body and allow it to function optimally. There is no shortcut.

Our body needs a balanced diet. Cutting carbs/protein/fat or any other essential nutrients may eventually only lead to long-term health issues.

Choose a diet, you can live with for life. Because Food is Love. Food is Life -Rujuta Diwekar.


Exercise

My knees badly wanted those pain relievers at the doctor’s office, but I promised them something else.

I took a gym membership and started strength training with the help of a personal trainer. I never believed in love at first sight until I worked those weights during my training. At the end of every session, I was the one in charge, conquering my pain a bit more than yesterday.

One year later, I was in my best form, performing deadlifts, 1.5 times my body weight. The trainer calls me a natural, crediting the performance to my best asset: My Legs!

Three years later, my knees thanked me for keeping my words at the finish line of the half-marathon race when my daughter was a year old — a massive accomplishment for someone who was once susceptible to her body weight, let alone carrying a baby through the pregnancy!

Another baby later, I returned to running and trained for another half-marathon race. A few years later, I am now back to lifting weights in the gym, and I cannot thank my body enough for delivering the best! All I ever have to do is feed it nutritious food to help it recover!

I am glad I did not settle for the doctor’s prescription or the norms about women’s weightlifting or long-running. I could have never found the robust version of my body that had long yearned to outperform the thoughts in my mind!

I thank my body for going above and beyond! The bounds of confidence and positivity it brings into my daily life are priceless!


Surprising facts and the most infamous question

  • In my best form of health, I was 10+ pounds heavier than my pre-pregnancy weight, even after all the hardcore training. I lost inches and gained a super-toned body with an excellent muscle mass percentage! So, the next time you dread the weighing scale, grab the measuring tape!
  • I started running again after my second pregnancy and was surprised to find how easy it was to catch up and improve my mileage. Thanks to muscle memory. It works wonders! Mind you; Every workout counts!
  • Being healthy looks different for everybody!! According to the BMI calculator, I am borderline overweight. But, my running and weight lifting performance have peaked at an all-time high!

Fitness is not about having a picture-perfect image. It is about feeling good, inside and out!

  • My favourite part of my current lifestyle is that I don’t put on weight even when I have not worked out for more than a week or ten days. My body conveniently sticks with its current weight, allowing me to be comfortable in my skin!
  • Only we know our bodies, the best! There are days I wake up feeling bloated because of sleepless nights or stressful work. And that is ok. Life happens, and judging my body is unfair because I slipped a few days!
  • The only way I have found to measure my progress is by looking in the mirror and beating the damn performance of that person I see there!
  • Some days, I want to rest, and sometimes, I must force-stop myself to avoid overuse injury! Rest and Recovery are as crucial as the workouts to achieve the best results!

Fitness is a lifelong commitment; I don’t believe in cheating my body to indulge in that sizzling brownie with ice cream.

  • I bet I burned more calories answering the most overrated question: How much weight did you lose?! For starters, weight loss was never my goal. So, please ask me what I gained instead!
  • Body weight says nothing about our underlying health condition. I have friends who look slim with high cholesterol levels and people who are on a diet with hormonal disorders. Next time you want to go on a crazy diet to lose weight, ask yourself: Is it worth your body?
  • The game-changer of my fitness journey has been my beautiful body! Falling in love with it and accepting it has been the best decision ever.

Health is not just being disease-free. Health is when every cell in your body is bouncing with joy -Sadhguru.

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Hope and Happiness Delivered to Your Inbox

In response to CC6: Summary article for my newsletter

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Magic bytes, my substack newsletter, was born early this year out of my burning desire to thrive and attract energy from like-minded souls to find my purpose.

Ever since my first post, I have been fuelled by nothing but passion for connecting more with people and sharing my experience of love, life, and everything else in between. Because I believe in making a difference in others’ lives and my own, in every way possible!

Life has shown me that anything is possible when we dare to dream. Nothing can stop us from bringing those dreams into reality if we believe in ourselves! All answers we are looking for lie within us!

Start living today, and experience your life differently through a grateful heart full of love. Life is nothing but a series of magic and miracles!

Magic bytes deliver hope and happiness to your inbox, reminding you to look for joy and beauty in your everyday life.


My subscribers’ testimony about their experience

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My heartfelt thanks to my lovely readers Bridie Dillon, Zaha Hyatt, and Trista Signe Ainsworth for such beautiful testimonials. Your words spark a light in my soul, adding more shine to my world of words❤️.

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Live Your Life to the Fullest

Dancing Elephants Book Project: Mindfulness – Group 1

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Be realistic, expect a miracle -Osho.

Every snowflake is unique. Leaves of the same tree differ in their shades of green. Every sea wave is formed at a different speed than the others. Nature never stops amusing me.

With each passing day and night, I realise miracles are within our reach.

All it takes for us is to believe! And continue to believe, through the thick and thin!

What you believe, you receive -Gabby Bernstein.


Life is about creating yourself

Until a few years back, I used to think my problems were big. Planning vigorously for the future, I caught myself time and again in the waves of anxiety. I never understood “slow down”.

I was busy ticking the checklist of my goals, one by one. Every Monday, I waited for Friday evenings. I wanted the weekends to go on for a bit longer.

My life plans were based on wishful thinking. I used to save my best clothes for occasions and wait for the marked days on the calendar to have some fun!

When my daughter was born, everything changed. She has an innate love for nature. She enjoys going on nature walks. Swaying her hands, she listens to the singing birds. She collects peculiar rocks and shells on the beach. She stops by to smell some flowers and gets excited to see the roly-poly bugs. With every step, she pauses to pay attention to everything around her.

She walks at her own pace, dismissing the concept of time. To my surprise, the world waits for her!

She enables me to experience the beauty in everything around me.

I have come to realise the power of living in the moment. Life is happening in the NOW, and there is no better time to live it fully.

Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself -George Bernard Shaw.


Life doesn’t happen to you. It happens for you

Quote: Jim Carrey

A flip in mindset can turn a stone into a diamond.

In hindsight, the best parts of my life happened when my plans failed. 99% of the time, what I worried about never happened. People I met by accident became the game changers in my life. I find a piece of myself in every other person I meet!

Life has so much to offer if we care to notice the small details around us. There are beautiful surprises everywhere, waiting to be unwrapped. All we need to do is be present at the moment and become more aware!

Self-awareness is the key to living mindfully. The more we know about ourselves, we handle our situations more efficiently and live life on our terms.

When we train to detach our emotions from the problem and look at it without judgment, it becomes easy to spot the opportunities hidden within the problems.

I am always more curious to find out how my story unfolds! Life has shown me that anything is possible!

At times, when life situations overwhelm me, I drop everything and take a break. As I sit down with my high-energy companion, I notice the brown shade of my coffee warms my heart. Nothing awakens my senses like its aroma. I savour the eternity from the cup while its scent still lingers within me, long after every sip.

The best part of Coffee and Life lies in their bitterness. How we treat such bitter moments defines us and determines the level of our happiness and success.

This is my simple formula to live life, my style, with no regrets.


The essence of life is in the simple joys of living

When I think of happiness, the memories that come to my mind are the ones that have my signature laughs engraved on them! I feel proud of those times when I helped someone in a heartbeat. My heart instantly melts when I think about the unexpected compliments received for the work I did.

In all of the above instances, I was present at the moment to give and receive!

My days would be incomplete without these simple joys in my life: laughing out loud, running outdoors, picking my daughter’s brains, watching my son play, pranking my husband, chatting with my siblings, a long drive, an extra hot cup of coffee, and the list goes on…

I add unexpected flavours to each day, so my life is not a predictable timetable. I surprise myself by trying something new very often. And touch others with my kind words and warm compliments, I truly mean.

I share what I have found out in my life without holding back. Because I believe the joy of living lies not in finding but by sharing!

Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does. -William James.


Bring out the child in you

Last week, I was out on a family vacation, and my brother texted me to bring out the child in me. Little did I know then about the impact of those words.

On the first day of the trip, my family went for a walk from the hotel to the waterfalls. The path was curvy with freshly painted green leaves all over the trees, the stunning pink flowers competing with the purple ones. With the constant whistling birds in the background, we walked in the direction of the falls. In the midway, it started to rain, and we had to walk back to the hotel. However, I wanted to go for that walk one more time but alone.

The following morning, I woke up a bit early to go for the nature walk but had second thoughts about if I should really do it. I then remembered to bring out the child in me and instantly jumped out of my bed.

I created some breathtaking memories that I will carry with me for the rest of my life.


Takeaways:

  • It is never too late to create the life you want! Experience Life in the NOW!
  • Switch your attitude, discover opportunities in the given problem, and become ready to live life to the fullest!
  • Be present to savour the simple joys of life. The little things in life make up the best memories!
  • Awaken the child in you and experience life at a whole new level!

Life is a series of thousands of tiny little miracles. Notice them -Unknown.

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Discover the Joy in You

My response to CC6 Prompt: Why you should subscribe to my newsletter

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Stop looking for them elsewhere. All the answers live within YOU!

In the mirror, am I seeing a happy face. Looking into my mind, I question my existence. Listening to my heart connects the dots. Only the soul knows what I was born to do!

The desire to know your own soul will end all other desires -Rumi.


The story of my newsletter

One fine afternoon, I was sitting in a dimly lit room editing my guest post for a newsletter. My inner voice whispered: how nice it would be to have my own newsletter catering to my readers?! The sparkling mind lit up the room, flooding my heart with volumes of love and hope.

In that moment of happiness and excitement, I knew what I would do for the rest of my life. With intense love and pure joy!

When you find your purpose, it is like your heart has been set alight with passion. You know it absolutely, without any doubt -Rhonda Byrne.

My substack newsletter Magicbytes was born!

It is a FREE weekly newsletter that will direct emails to your inbox with love, laughter, and hope. With the right dose of motivation and inspiration, the stories will promise to bring smiles, elevate hopes, clear doubts, and extend my hugs through the screen.

I write about love, relationships, work, career, parenting, fitness, and anything else that makes life more interesting!


7 reasons to subscribe to Magicbytes

  • My newsletter is invested in my readers. I put a lot of effort and time into it because I believe that the sole purpose of my life is to touch lives through my words.
  • Magicbytes will bring out the seeker in you. It is designated to discover the joy in you and love in life’s everyday moments.
  • I am motivated to share my personal stories hoping they may help someone going through similar issues in their current state of life. I write about what I have personally tried, tested, and experienced in my own life.
  • There were moments in my life where I wished someone had told me something earlier [ask shamelessly, fail miserably,..]. I would love to share those tips and tricks so you can learn from my experience.
  • Laughter is infectious. And so are positivity, happiness, and kindness. The more we spread them, the more beautiful our world becomes! Anything to make the world a better place!
  • Nobody deserves to be alone. No matter where/who/what you are, my stories will accompany you! It will assure you that you are not alone!
  • I want to build a beautiful community of like-minded people where we are there to support each other in our journeys.

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We make a living by what we get. But, we make a life by what we give -Winston S. Churchill.

Always remember, You are the magic in your life. Stop looking for it elsewhere.

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What Makes You Think Like That, Mommy?

She asked me with raised eyebrows!

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It started when I announced to my husband and 8-year-old daughter my plan to stop repeating the same thing to them 10 times in a row. My inability to grab their attention through their TV was not my fault.

I added I will start writing down things on the refrigerator board like the routine stuff about food, where to find what, etc…Although they heard what I said, their faces looked so blank. Especially the grown-up was very careful to not let out any expression of joy, avoiding my eye contact.

My daughter appeared to be still processing what I said and started with, “Wait, so you will not talk to us?

Me: Well, not about the routine stuff anymore.

My husband interrupts: Didn’t you hear what she just said? She said she would write down everything on the fridge board and stop talking to us.

My daughter pauses a bit long and continues, “Mommy, but there is not enough space on the board there?

Me: “That space is enough to tell things like, Food is ready, Playtime, stop watching the tv, nap time, …” and added, “Of course, I will talk for other stuff.

Now, my husband looks at me in shock. In his mind, I walked over my own promise. Oh yeah, I can read minds too 🤪

My daughter continues, “Wait …wait…what about your office? Will you talk to people there?

Me: Of course. Remember, this plan is reserved only for you and your Dad for turning deaf ears to me.

Daughter: What about my brother?

Me: I will talk to him.

With a sudden rise in her excitement, she adjusts her seating into the most comfortable spot on the couch. Resting her palms to the sides of her face, she now continues, “So, who else will you talk to?

Me: To the rest of the world.

[I totally missed the warning sign when she changed position.]

Daughter: Wait, What do you mean?

Me: The entire world except you two loves to listen to me talk.

I shrugged off the smirk that escaped my husband’s poker face.

Daughter: Did the world tell you they were interested?

Me: I just know.

Daughter: What makes you think like that, Mommy?

Me: I don’t know. I…

Daughter: You think like that because you write stories on medium and people read them?

At this point, my husband couldn’t resist laughing anymore.

Me: It doesn’t matter.

Daughter: Actually, Is the whole world even present on Medium?

Me: Ok. I think I made my point clear. For any further questions, ask your Dad.

Daughter: Mommy, you know I can frustrate you so much and make you shout at me. But, if you did, you know that counts as talking too, right?!

That was about 12 minutes of talking about not-wanting-to-talk.

I gave up on my new idea and walked away while she stayed cosy on the couch to enjoy my ego slump on the floor.

Anyway, I wanted to write this story here to let her know the world knows.

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Parenting Is About Ditching the Cute

And embracing the wild…

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My toddler son is crazy about animals. Animals that are extinct, living in the farm or zoo, savannah or sea. You name it, he has at least one toy already.

The part that amazes me is that his favourite animal is not a cute sheep or a magnificent elephant. He loves his Hippopotamus to the tee.

He carries a small hippo toy in his hand all the time. Other than spending its time inside his palm, it can be found resting under my pillow or in places you could least imagine in the most unexpected times. It has actually made me believe hippo ghosts exist too.

The scary toy with its wide-open mouth showing its wild teeth is an image you want to avoid. Once you take a look, you can never undo it!

Recently, I watched him play with the toy, poking its teeth with his fingers and holding it close to him. When he left the toy behind to go out, I immediately grabbed it and laughed aloud about what am I missing?! The hippo now comes in handy during my stressful times. It makes me smile through the tough times and worst.

In all seriousness, I am also learning that Parenting is all about ditching what we think is cute and allowing the kids to go wild with whatever they want!

Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder! -Plato.

What is a parenting moment, that made you feel goofy but had a hidden life lesson? Please share it in the comments.

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Be Careful What You Tell the Kids

Another mind-blowing moment with my 8-year-old!

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After inviting my daughter at least 3 times to eat her dinner, I started to eat my meal.

She was busy with her craftwork, and when she noticed that I had already started eating, she was surprised.

She said: Mommy, how could you eat before giving me food?

I knew the only way to finish my meal without drama was to divert her mind from the present by pulling out a surprising story.

To create an interest in the story first, I said to her: let me give you a scenario and see if you pass that one. She was now listening.

I said: Ok, you are on the aeroplane with your brother. Now, the pressure inside the plane drops. You know how the oxygen masks will fall from above your seat. The question is, will you help yourself or your brother first?

She said without second thoughts, “Of course, I will help my brother.

Aww…My irresistible urge to add some life lesson to the current situation was unstoppable.

I continued, “I am proud of you. Your answer is the right thing to do. But sometimes, we need to help ourselves first before we help others. What if you faint while trying to help because you were not wearing your oxygen mask first? So, always put on your oxygen mask first. It is not about being selfish but common sense.

She looked confused and a bit impatient now.

She shrugged and asked, “Anyway, Mommy, are you planning to serve my dinner or not?

I replied: “Actually, I am now putting on my oxygen mask.”🤪

She was not expecting that. My pride shone high through the ceiling that night. Little did I know what was about to come!


A few days later…

I called out to my daughter during bedtime and asked her to refill my water bottle.

She said in a loud, clear tone: “Always help yourself first before you help others!

It was now my turn to be confused. I thought it was probably a proverb or something learned recently.

She giggled and clarified: “Well, it is your quote, Mom. Remember, the oxygen mask?!

She left the empty bottle with me and walked away with a sense of pride that broke through the ceiling with no limits.

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Have You Eaten The Frog Yet?

I do, every day!

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Brian Tracy in his book “Eat that frog” talks about how to finish the most difficult and daunting task, first thing in the morning to avoid procrastinating.

He says, “Eat that big ugly frog first.” And after only 3 years of reading that book, I’ve finally put that into practice and am amazed at the results.

As I sip my first cup of coffee every morning, I pick the ugliest of all frogs on my plate and start marinating it. As much as I am disgusted to imagine touching it, I feel the same way about doing some of the tasks at work.

I used to wait until dusk to push some of the tasks to the next morning only to find myself in a spot several days later, where I can’t prolong any further. The last-minute pressure of getting any work done is not only stressful but also strips the fun out of the process involved in executing it.

I have thought about many creative ways in the past to trick myself to at least get started with such work, but my mind would often arrive at an unplanned destination in a matter of minutes.

So, nowadays I start my day with the most challenging task, I would never pick otherwise. The unperturbed mind space combined with the brisk energy in the morning drives my focus to the task at hand. To my surprise, I finish the job also in very less time.

Starting a brand new day with a sense of accomplishing a tedious work continues to create the ripple effect throughout the day! It leaves me beaming high with confidence and ample energy!

What is the ugliest frog, you have eaten so far and how did you feel as an after effect? Please share it in the comments.

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Start Your Journey With Happiness Today

Dancing Elephants Book Project: Health and Wellness – Group 1

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A life well-lived is the most exquisite work of art -Erwin Mcmanus.

Health and Wellness are the pre-requisites to ensure an optimal state of being and enjoy a fulfilled life.

When we love ourselves enough, the self-healing body takes care of itself. The mind that is calm by nature comes into effect, and the soul dances in high spirit!

All it takes is to accept, love, and respect ourselves. And treat ourselves the way we would treat someone else.


Happiness is the highest form of health- Dalai Lama.

Happiness is a personal choice. It means different things to different people.

To me, happiness is:

Living a life that is rich in love and gratitude.

Courage to do things differently.

Gathering hope and confidence to smile through the pain.

To make a difference.

To become my best version.

The glowing smile on my face is only the reflection of my beautiful mind and a shining soul.


The greatest wealth is health -Virgil.

In my early school years, I used to be one of the best basketball players. I absolutely loved playing and took the game seriously. I never stopped playing once because I got hurt and was bleeding from the wound, or it started raining.

When I started high school, I stopped playing to focus on my studies. I hardly played after that.

I gained a few pounds of body weight when I started working my first job. The erratic work schedule, limitless food options, and less physical activity were not helping.

When self-realisation stuck, I steadily chased the number on the weighing scale. I believed health was all about maintaining particular body weight. I wish someone had helped me preserve my sanity then!

Name a crazy diet, and I have most probably tried it already. GM, Low Carb High Protein, Low Fat, Paleo, Vegan, No-dinner, Skip-breakfast, Salad-for-lunch, Juice diet and what not?! Sadly, I had nothing to lose except good health.

While I looked great on the outside, my organs suffered deep within. It was reflected in the form of intense pain and severe cramps. At one point, my knee pain became my constant baggage.

The red flag flew right at my face in the doctor’s office when I was diagnosed with mild arthritis. He blamed it on the fad diets. And advised me to start medication and limit any physical activity to manage the pain. Instead, I enrolled in the gym and signed up with a personal trainer.

I never believed in love at first sight until I started strength training!

The dumbbells and barbells brought my strength back to life! Girl Power!

At the finish line of the half-marathon race, I felt elated after a really long time in my life! It brought back the player in me!

What lies behind us and what lies ahead of us are tiny matters when compared to what lives within us! -Henry David Thoreau.

To this day, I continue to run and power lift to feel my vigour.

I am glad I gave my body a second chance to show its worth!

If you want to change something about yourself, start with your body!

Bet on yourself, and you will be amazed by the results!


Courage is a love affair with the unknown -Osho

The best chapters of my life have one thing in common: They happened when I dared to make bold decisions going against all the odds. Like marrying my husband, quitting my first job, rejecting a high-paying job offer from a different city, or buying our first new home overseas. The list goes on…

At the peak of the world pandemic, we decided to move to our home country from the dream city in a foreign land to stay close to family. We felt it was the right thing to do. The decision was made and executed in only 2 weeks. We started from scratch again. It was one of the best decisions ever!

Following our hearts is smoother than following the crowd if only we find the courage to believe in ourselves. Instilling the confidence within that we will persist, even when we have nothing left but ourselves.

Life becomes easy and stress-free when we fight for what we want. The joy of living allows us to enjoy our ride in our own style! With no regrets!

I have learned that in life, it is always worth taking that leap, making new mistakes, taking chances, trusting ourselves, and simply following our guts!

Listen to your heart! It always has something to say! It knows the way to your dreams, even from a thousand miles away!


You have nothing to prove to anybody -Maya Angelou.

I feel happy and motivated when I focus my energy on listening to my inner voice. In other words, explaining myself to others drains my energy like nothing else.

Not until recently did I find me in a loop answering questions about my self-care by people around me?! In their view, it is adding stress to an already busy working mom’s life.

How do I make them understand why I do what I do? I used to genuinely wonder! Until I noticed my explanation slowly drifted toward convincing them about my life choices. It became clear that I could never change other people’s opinions about me.

Nowadays, when someone questions “my” time, I redirect them to my article about self-care. The power of writing once to be read by many.


Don’t lose yourself in your roles

The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much and forgetting that you are special too -Ernest Hemingway.

I am a loving daughter, terrific sister, amazing wife, super mom, sweet in-law, and best friend you can never find. I am all of that and much more.

I don’t beat myself up because I forgot to do something for my kids one out of 100 times. Or I put my needs before someone else’s. I don’t judge my wants and let people see my worth by playing my way and not theirs.

When I think I failed as a parent, I remind myself that I am still acing at all the other roles! This thought eliminates my all-or-nothing approach and avoids the series of a catastrophe of emotions.

I am well aware that there will be beautiful times, thankless moments, ongoing challenges, and improvement needs in every role.

On my tough days and best, I remember that the privilege lies in having the chance to be the role.

This is enough to fill my cup with nothing but love and gratitude!

I don’t take anyone for granted, including me!


When was the last time you did something for the first time?

A life lived at less than its full potential is a life half wasted -Tony Clark.

I do something different very often. Doing something nice for a stranger gives me thrills. Adding new meaning to my life by making someone laugh at my cost during their difficult times. I find new ways to crack my husband, siblings, or parents. I like to play make-believe and random surprises with my kids. Simple everyday moments like these make my life colourful.

I have once been a victim of an idle mind, and the experience did not fair well. I felt depressed in my extreme boredom doing nothing. Ever since I found the root cause of my problem, I have engaged my brain by learning new skills, reading books, and writing. Knowledge keeps me alive and grounded.

Like our body, we also have only one brain. Use it to avoid losing it over trivial life matters.

Too often, we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which, have the potential to turn a life around -Leo Buscaglia.


Become your best version

There is no one like you in this world, and that alone is your superpower -N.R.Hart.

Every one of us is brought into this universe with a purpose. Finding the reason behind our existence is the key contributor to our success, happiness and peace of mind. Because we were born to do exactly that!

It took me two kids and 7 years to find my joy in running, strength in powerlifting weights at the gym, and my solace in writing.

My curiosity has been awakened. The more I discover about myself, the happier I become.

Surrounding myself with like-minded people and positive vibes has been instrumental in creating a seamless connection to my passion.

My mission in life is not merely to survive; but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humour, and some style. -Maya Angelou.


Takeaways

Take care of your amazing body. You got only one!

Dare to live your dreams by listening to your heart. Live beautifully with no regrets!

Redirect your energy to focus on your inner voice.

Do not compromise and lose yourself in the roles you play. Tend to your needs and wants too.

Your brain screams “Use me or lose me”.

Become your best version by finding your purpose in life.

Let the joy in you light up the world! Make a difference now! Start your journey with happiness today!

© Tamil, 2022


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Ten things you don’t know about me

Yet!

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  1. I love prompts like this that make me smile as I write. In other words, my love for self awaits an opportunity always to spill all over the screen! 🤪
  2. I chose home birth to get out and see the world. The nurse who came home to deliver me refused to get paid. Ever since my Dad jokingly calls me “the free kid.” 😆
  3. I got lost in second grade walking over to the next neighbourhood town, losing my way back home. I interrogated the police officer, who found me, to confirm my father’s name and address before I hopped on his bike. He told my parents: You don’t ever have to worry about this one! And they never did 😉
  4. I recall shaving my head at least 5 times up until middle school. I never gave importance to how I looked. Instead, I focused on how I felt. I take happiness very seriously!! The most beautiful people I’ve ever met in my life are the bravest, strongest, and wittiest ( of course, I am on the list too).🥰
  5. I grew up playing a lot of sports. I attribute the best traits in me to my love of games. I learned so much about life only through play. I never exerted as much energy on my studies, although I aced them equally 🥳
  6. I participated in all recreational events at my school like Speech, drawing, writing, dance, singing, and sports. I never once played to win! To me, it was always about showing up and giving my best! I ended up owning a bunch of winner certificates too! 😬
  7. I love all shades of orange! The world would be less colourful without pumpkins. Don’t you think?! 😎
  8. I am a chocoholic. The power of chocolate is so under-estimated. Every chapter of my life has only two episodes: “before” and “after” Chocolate 💗
  9. I derive my hope and faith from the abundance in nature. Nothing makes me feel instantly at peace than the gushing waterfalls, the rushing waves, the silent streams, and the soothing rivers. Yes, I am a water body too 🤪
  10. The best life decision I ever made was marrying my husband by going against all the odds. After 2 awesome kids, I am still able to live the life of my dreams pursuing my passions only because he got my back! 😇

© Tamil, 2022

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